Why You Should Fail to Accomplish Your Goals

It's okay to fall short of reaching your goals. Easy goals will motivate you to set more but, you should progress and challenge yourself.

I felt my spine compress with 500 lbs on my back and I knew that I would fail to reach my summer goals.

When I played football at The University of Missouri, we had goals based on what position we played. When I arrived we called them "Big 12" standards. In my third year when we moved to the Southeastern Conference, they changed the name to "SEC" standards.

As a grossly undersized defensive tackle weighing an average 245 lbs, my standard was to squat 510 lbs for 5 reps.

At the beginning of the semester, we would have goals set for us. That's right for us.

We had two options:

  1. Sign off acknowledging we would reach this goal
  2. Write in a higher number that we would commit to reaching

The process seemed daunting at first but, after a semester or two, you built some confidence. Being successful in your initial goals gives you motivation to keep going. 

Coaches would set a new goal and I would reach it every time (except the hang clean, I still hate those ha).

Having a goal Set for You is Great Because it Removes Decision

When you're a beginner, you don't have any idea of how attainable your goals are. Your first question working with a mentor might be what a good goal is.

You might have five different goals but, you need to pick the most important one's to you right now. (Read more on why you can't have 5 "most" important goals here)

Working with a mentor is invaluable because she can help you set a motivating goal. A goal that you look forward to achieving, like reaching a milestone where you get to fit into a dress you haven't worn before.

If You're Always Reaching Your Goals, You're Holding Back

We teach our kids the importance of failing, hard work and testing your assumptions but, failing is hard.

You don't set out on a New Year's resolution expecting to fall flat in February. No one wants to tell their boss, this is what I've been up to and it didn't work. No business plans to fail. The thing is you should be failing.

At the beginning of some semesters, I would give my coaches the side eye. There's no way in hell I'm getting that number by the end of the spring, I'd think to myself. I rarely failed though.

My coaches knew (a lot) more than I did about what was attainable for me. They also believed in me and knew that I could reach every standard we set before training.

I failed to reach my goal of squatting 510 for 5 reps by the end of the spring but, I did squat 500 for 5 reps successfully.

If it were up to me alone, sure I would've eventually gotten pretty far but, I would have left a lot of results on the table.

Why wasn't I crushed when I didn't reach 510 for 5 reps? Because my original goal was lower,-somewhere around 495 for 5 reps, and I told myself that wasn't high enough. 

Don't be afraid to be wrong. You're the only person who can write your story.

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